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The Issue of Trust

When a child is suddenly taken from his home, and from his family, and placed in a home against his will, there are bound to be issues of trust. Many children in foster care have never had an adult in their life that has not betrayed their trust; why should they trust you? Indeed, when a child in foster care first moves into your home, he is bound to be suspicious, as he is now living in a stranger’s home; your home. One way to combat this is to create a trusting and nurturing environment within your own home. Let your foster child know as early as possible that he is welcome in your house. Keep in mind that your home is very likely the last place he wants to be. Despite all the pain, difficulties, and perhaps even abuse your foster child may have faced in his own home before coming to live with you, you are still not his parents, not his family, and not his home. He probably will want to be with his own family, and will resist opening up to you. These first initial days and weeks are essential in regards to building trust. Try to be as warm, as compassionate, and as understanding as you possibly can. Your efforts in this area will be recognized by your foster child, even if he does not show it or acknowledge it.
Along with this, you will want to let your foster child know that your house is a safe one, and that he will not come to harm in your home. Not only do you want to let your foster child know this when he joins your family, it is just as important to remind him of this as often as possible. Treat him like a member of your family. You want to show your foster child that you value him as a person, and that he is important. What he says, what he thinks, what he believes; your foster child needs to realize that all of these are important. For some children, this might be a new experience, as they have never been shown value before.
Trust can also be built by showing your foster child that you care for him. Building a trusting relationship means showing your foster child that you are concerned for his well being, physically, emotionally, and mentally. Showing compassion for your foster child is an important part of building a healthy relationship, as he needs to know and feel that you care for him. After all, close relationships between children and adults is a central part of avoiding further risky behavior.
You may find that your foster child will try to test your trust, your love, and your dedication to him. He may lash out verbally, throw temper tantrums or throw items in frustration, may lie to you. On the other hand, he might also withdraw, refuse to talk, or not engage in the family in a positive way. After the so called “Honeymoon” period has elapsed, he may try determine how far you trust him, and how much a part of your family he is. When this happens, remain consistent in our values, your rules, and your consequences. Indeed, this also helps to build trust, as he will see that you will not waver in your rules and consequences, as well as your love for him.
Trust does take time, and for some foster children, it may take a very long period of time. Remember, you are planting seeds, here, that you may never see come to fruition.
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